What’s in it for this time?
i.
How to observe Happiness?
ii.
How to find Happiness?
iii.
How to alter more things for Happiness?
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“You can make new friends, daily, or choose to do otherwise. But, having some good tea with new faces; doesn’t sound a bad idea”
Why
did I write this piece?
Well, I am no sociologist or much of the sociopath, either. But this is what I observed.
Well, I am no sociologist or much of the sociopath, either. But this is what I observed.
Few days back I was called in to an MNC, for a
presentation. It was a techno mumbo jumbo on the clean technology and energy
analytics.
I am just an amateur to IT and this domain, though trying to bring some experts and entrepreneurs together for a new gag.
In just five minutes, they fucked the presentation.
Technical, financial viability, management team, economical parameters, market trends and what not, been used to kill the idea.
Rumbled up the entire day, my confidence, three months’ work, motivation and dreams, all of them. In just five freaking minutes.
What could I do?
Nothing!
Not a single thing!
Why?
Well, they had the authority, power, attitude and right to reject the presentation. Maybe skills and expertise also. Who knows?
I went to the coffee house, was drinking my regular one.
The manager at the next table marked my mile long face and dared to ask me, if I was not keeping well.
My mind was begging to punch him in the face of that fucker, but somehow I had to post a sane behavior and they serve the best tea in area, so I just gather up the drenched muscles to nod yes. I needed an exhaust now.
He might have observed the thought of getting punched so didn't ask a single thing till I was at counter, clearing the tab.
Escorting me to the doors, he mumbled one tiny sentence, “Sir! Hope to see you with some new friends next time ".
No one was with me.
That fucker went crazy?
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Ok.
So here is the video.
I seriously recommend to watch it in the mute mode first time.
Did you notice his jokes?
Materials for making them is nothing new.
Observing different languages, different communities, their peculiarities and specifications, behaviors, clashes, daily life troubles, gestures, stress and incidents they face out of it.
He goes to the audience, pick someone and start making jokes from replies. It’s called on set timing. Most of the media magnet uses, the best was of George Bush’s. He ducks two shoes at a media outcry. Gosh! He is too sporty.
Russell’s, is observing our daily life and tilting his vision slightly, to get the humor out of it. Not big thing. Unless your brain is crooked, this trick works for everyone. Tilt your perception and you'll get humor from almost everything, everywhere.
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Here is one more video.
In fact it is.
What he has to say?
Not much of new, than Russell and me.
Yes!
You heard it right.
OH wait. You read it right.
Nothing new than Russell and “me”!
Shawn’s things and research is in positive psychology. He has written books on it.
They are cool to read. It encircles our ways at workplace, at daily life and at our interactions with this whole planet, to get the hold of positivity.
Centre piece for his work is the Gratitude.
Centre idea is the Expression.
Centre theme is Happiness.
How he’s saying to do this?
The same way I am proposing it.
Observation
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Seriously !
This is the only key.
You need to find Happiness?
Observe
You need to locate Gratitude?
Observe
You need to trace the Fun?
Observe
You need to point out laughter?
Observe
You need to express compassion?
Observe
You need to align life?
Observe
You need to explore depth of joy?
Observe
You need to serve your confidence?
Observe
You need to motivate yourself?
Observe
You need to pump fuel to dreams?
Observe
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Observation is the key.
Why
is it so?
Because, we're intelligent !!
Survival needs Food, Tactics and Sex.
It doesn’t care if you're happy or sad.
You are hungry or in trouble; that talk to us, says
our survival instincts.
How to get rid of it?
What, you want to get rid of survival instincts?
No need for it!
In fact, you must not. This is what keeping you alive.
What to do then?
Learn to observe.
How, but?
There is no science to teach this, fortunately, we don’t need one.
Why? Because, the entire process of brain is focused to observe.
Evolutionary
Anthropology found that, brain is the robust
computational machine.
This gentleman has decoded it.
We learn by observing the patterns.
Happiness is also a code in the brain. Sensing which
brain produces the chemicals to create this feeling.
We need a simple answer dude !
Yes !
This is why I have started this blog.
I want to make simple things understandable.
So here is the crux !
A) Whenever you’re crushed, doomed, fucked up, in stress, in dilemma, in pain, in rage or in fact in any state; note a thing or two, or make a simple list of three things
B) Keep this list with you. Stored in your cellphone, in your computer or in any other gadget. If you don’t have any, write it on a piece of paper.
C) Don’t complex things. Just write only three things. Nothing more. Whenever you want to, or you can, or you are into the set of feelings I told in A.
D) Do nothing with that list.
E) Maintain that list. And by maintaining I mean, update it daily. Two times a day is good, three times, is better.
Now here is the catch.
What you should choose in those three things?
You can write anything.
Yes, I am not joking.
Anything.
Write anything. But keep in mind, you have to update your list under these three titles daily, so be wise while choosing them.
I have chosen to observe my mood variations,
- Um huh !
- Fucked up !
- Suck on bitches !
I update it four or sometimes five times a day. I have a excel sheet and a small piece of paper, to keep the track.
Why did I select only mood variation?
Because, I have seen my moods going crazy all the times. And what goes peak to bottom, tens times a day, just like the bumpy road, makes the ride horrible. This bumpy ride was the sucking wheel, drenching all the motives from my day to be happy.
You can decide a simple parameter, or drop a line, I’ll help you decide what to choose, for making this list.
Here is my thing.
I’m always fucked up, if I don’t get enough response to what I’ve bleed. My work, or blog, or food I made, or to research I did. Anything, in fact, to which I have engaged my expectations.
I am always like Um huh, whenever I’m late, tired, feeling alone, not having anything clear to speak or to share or to blog.
I am very rarely on the C. Suck on bitches. I am only there when I have got the best food, best thing to write, got some more money from clients than expected and sometimes when I get some appreciation.
What my brain thinks?
Don’t expect much of what others opine
Don’t be alone. Not for much time.
Don’t eat shit food. Neither write shit nor cook.
That’s all.
Whatever goes around my life, these three patterns are my keys. Whenever I’d want to go from B to A or to C, I use food or write, or sometimes go for a walk; observe people and then write.
Am
I able to get happiness with this exercise all the time?
No, all the time it isn’t needed even. I can handle the situation, even when I’m totally upset (like B) for some quite a long duration.
I need to go to happy state only when I feel really drenched and uneasy; body reacts in different manner at times like this. There I use my findings.
So, I use the outcomes to monitor and use the trick as and when needed.
Can I do better?
Yes, of course. I am now focusing to change my grooves on key. From Food, I’m trying to go to walk for all the time.
Magic is in finding these things. Once you know where you are holding in, you can dissolve easily.
One of the clients has created a list for anger
issues. His things are,
- I'll kill you
- I'll blast the premise
- I’ll just going to play it cool
Since, he’s find the intensity, he is working on one more exercise to get new personality developed.
Even his findings are shocking.
He is the person who would kill someone if they’re not paying attention, not if they’re bothering, upsetting, demotivating or even cheating.
He is just concerned about his words and expressions, where he’s on.
If you’re not paying your ears to his speech, he’s going to fuck up with your work, repo, attitude, passion or even with your car. So no wonder he need some attention to his attention issues. And what helps him to shift from A to C or B to C?
You won’t even believe; a pen or a key.
He just presses the objects, till the brain stop reacting on the patterns of A or B and stop releasing the chemicals. Soon a little pattern of pain and object’s outline maybe sends the signal to alter the focus, in his brain.
What’s your happy state?
If you don’t know it yet. Find it.
How?
You know the way now.
Comment or mail me to get some personified advice for making a list.
It’s a freebie so don't worry.
“Find it and celebrate. Life's too short to mourn.”
Love you all!
