How to die in Three easy steps?

Let’s just start this painful process with few questions,

• Have you ever broke up with anyone ?
• Have you ever lost something very precious to you ?
• Have you ever failed at something you wanted to go through desperately ?
• Have you ever been expelled or rejected from some task ?
• Have you ever felt the soul cracking parting to your loved ones ?
• Have you ever seen you dreams crashing leaving you alone in the world ?
• Have you ever been sad ?

If your answer to any of the above question is YES, then you are DEAD.

And I am not mocking.

You are definitely dead.

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As the student of Evolutionary Psychology and Spirituality, I have been reading books. Some on living the life, some on doing stuffs, some on cultures and some on the business. For me, books are the way to understand what others have lived, experienced, thought and noted down throughout their own times.

If you ask a person to write him, he will dream first.

Words play a very crucial role in writing and expressing the self. I have read and tried to understand philosophers like; Gurdgieff, Ouspensky, J G Benett, Krishnamurti, Freud, Carl Jung, Freidrich Neitzsche and Sartre.

Almost all of them have taught (the similar) teachings about life, mind and psychology of Man. Until I chose to study the Anthropology, I wasn’t sure about the cultural effects that how the people in different states and countries think the aspects I have read about.

Anyway, the point that I will put on today is all about, how to be dead ? And if you will get what it means by being the dead, you will definitely find a way around to enjoy rather to avoid it.

No, you don’t need a sharp blade or mean knife or sweet poison pills or any other stuff to be dead. Follow the guidelines below and you’ll find the death right here, right now.

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Step 1:

Understand that your existence has been made up of three layers

Step 2:

Observe your existence carefully and find out these three layers for your case

Step 3:

Search for the experiences that have been into each layer making you dead

Step 4:

Enjoy the death you have gone through till now

I am sure by now you have understood that the first three steps are useles

Believe me or not, but this is your life. A bunch of steps, with abstract and random information resulting into the situations in which you feel confuse, aloof, sad, alone, not happy, failed, parted or in anger.

The responses that we don’t understand, make us dead.

So now, let’s look back at the steps and understand the responses, first

Three layers are,

• What you think about others?
• What others think about you?
• What you really are?

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I have tried this exercise with my clients. They come up with problems in family, work life, social life, health, in someone else’s life and what not. I try to divide all their problems into these three layers and find answers to each one them. This division gives most visibility to them and understanding of their problems to me.

How do I do it?

This is a topic of writing whole new article about but some other time.

Here is what I want you to understand. Like my clients, you all have (and if you do not, this is a major manufacturing defect, contact customer care ASAP) the same three layers. And things or issues that bothers you anywhere, anytime; have something to do with anyone or more of the layers.

For instance, if you are not satisfied with your Job and that is making you sad somewhere deep down in your heart, this issue has to do with what you think about yourself and what you really are. The point that what others may think of you in this position is almost the same for everyone; responses will 99 percent of the times, be the same for you, like for others, so not to worry about that layer.

Anyway, the glitter here in is that, when you feel sad about Job, your one of the extensions that defines your existence is hit. When I say hit, this is bad, very bad. Your Job is what connects you and society to your skills and needs. You feel sad about any part of it, be it needs, skills or satisfaction arousing out of both or interdependency, it dies.

Why this happens?

Simple, everything you have as your existence, needs a force to continue. This force could be inspiration, motivation, dream, demand, ego, esteem, recognition or anything specific to your identity.

It is then, when you feel sad, you disconnect with that force and one of the side of your identity sphere gets the beating. (You people should watch, Inside Out)

So, what I do with my clients after getting findings?

I enlist, one by one, each of the motives (force) that connect you to your existence via any of the three layers, for which you could feel death. For instance, some of you might have a strong need for the self-esteem, so whenever you get a blow on the parts containing self-esteem in the layers of: What you think about yourself and What you really are, you now know that blow has hit to an extension of your identity and nothing more.

This exercises have given people more power to sustain many aspects of the hurdles they face (In my language, they’re getting the immortality to these types of small deaths).

Now it’s the time for you to observe Step 2, whether what I have just said is right or not (If you’ve the answer YES to any of the questions I asked you in the beginning, this point is proved). Find out your layers for your own character and start working on for Step 3.

In Step number 3, search for the experiences in each layer and note them down to know your connections with each layer, in a better way. Remember, just like the water in glass, your existence is the gathered up quantities distributed in these layers.

How this findings will help you?

Gosh ! I can’t believe you asking this question at the end. Well, now you know (thanks to your brain) that how you can die in three easy steps. So find a Step number 4 which can beat all the three steps and lets you live at the fullest.

If you can’t find step 4, keep reading me, I’ll post one soon.

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Happy death-day to all !